15 Sep Baby Boomers Guide to Toxic Children
Of course there are no toxic children: only toxic parents. Psychological articles cover the subject of toxicity in a variety of guises and hosts. The most distressing of these is the presence of toxic behavior in children, which is just another description for appalling manners really. We all know where the fault of bad manners in children lays – firmly with the parents.
Poor parenting is the modern disease for which there is seemingly no cure, only a program of optimistic improvement. Psychological articles that research poor parenting and its effects on children nearly always attribute poor parenting skills to the upbringing that parent received as a child, and so the vicious circle goes on and on…
There is an undeniable connection in psychological articles that bad parents come from other bad parents. Each generation passes on an ugly legacy of bad behavior to the next, each one justifying the toxic effect with the excuse, “That’s the way I was brought up and it didn’t do me any harm…” which is, of course, nonsense.
Children respond to love, kindness, routine and gentle discipline. Toxic children need not remain so and can be encouraged into a world where civil behavior is the new order of the day quite easily with careful attention and plenty of affection. Psychological articles on the prescribed manner of dealing with naughty children often recommend a policy of tolerance as a start. However, this often imparts the wrong message, especially to very young children with limited understanding.
Very young children understand only what is allowed or not allowed, as the case may be. There is no need to explain the reason why Junior is not permitted to pull Grandma’s earrings off. He just is not allowed to. End. People who must take on the unenviable task of correcting toxic behavior in children need to understand that negotiation with the very young can lead to a lack of confidence in authority. Psychological articles clearly outline the benefits of gentle authority, which encourages the child to rely upon instructions from that person and know them to be a reliable source of affection and understanding.
Toxic behavior comes in all kinds of unpleasant packages: shouting; arguing; throwing things; temper tantrums; rudeness; lying; the list is endless, unfortunately. Almost all of these ghastly characteristics are exhibited by parents as well as children and probably more often. The trick is to eliminate the problems from the parents and the children will benefit by association.
Psychological articles that target the difficulties of toxic children nearly always begin with the inadequacies of the parents involved. Parenting skills are at the heart of most of the toxic problems suffered by children and parents need to be re-trained in these skills before a significant improvement can be expected.
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