{"id":429,"date":"2008-12-08T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2008-12-08T05:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/karenturnerphd.com\/how-to-build-a-healthy-relationship\/"},"modified":"2017-10-24T13:24:30","modified_gmt":"2017-10-24T17:24:30","slug":"how-to-build-a-healthy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/karenturnerphd.com\/how-to-build-a-healthy-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Build a Healthy Relationship?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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by BoomerYearbook.com<\/p>\n

\u201cHappily ever after\u201d is a term which exists only in fairy tales. In real life every relationship has its share of bumps and problems. In fact having occasional arguments is even considered healthy. But if mutual bickering and fights become an everyday phenomenon, then you know your relationship is headed for trouble.<\/p>\n

A lot of song writers and poets have aptly said \u201clove just ain\u2019t enough!\u201d Mutual love may be the most important building block of a relationship, but love alone can’t sustain the relationship. You might love your partner or spouse to death but may still find your relationship battling stormy weather. The reason could be that your relationship has one or more of the following elements missing: trust, open communication, respect, honesty and\/or complete commitment. However, if you have the will and desire to make your relationship work, these problems can be sorted out. <\/p>\n

How to make your relationship work?<\/p>\n

Acknowledge that you have a problem <\/p>\n

Blame- game is the common factor in almost all troubled relationships. People tend to get so blinded with anger that they lose their objectivity. Ego of course adds fuel to the fire. Sadly, this raging fire of anger and ego burns down the most vital building block of a relationship- love. It is therefore important that both the partners acknowledge the fact that they have a problem and refrain from finger pointing. <\/p>\n

Communicate<\/p>\n

Often we don’t share our feelings with our partner\/spouse for the fear of hurting them and some times we may avoid speaking our mind in order to avoid an argument. Continuation of this kind of behavior has the potential to destroy a relationship. Not sharing your feelings will lead to simmering resentment within you and the other person will continue with their life without even realizing that their behavior is hurting you. The result can be an explosion of bottled up emotions, leaving your partner bewildered and deeply hurt. Open channels of communication are therefore vital for the health of any relationship and remember communication need not always be in an argumentative tone or a high pitched voice. It\u2019s important to keep your ego aside and communicate your feelings in a loving manner, in order to save yourself and your loved one from pointless hurt.<\/p>\n

Relationship counseling<\/p>\n

When you are angry or deeply hurt, you may blow small problems out of proportion. Just as love sometimes clouds our objectivity, hurt and anger have a similar effect too. You may be tempted to ask a friend or a close relative to interfere or \u201cmake the other person see the sense of your argument\u201d, but remember this approach can easily backfire as friends and relatives may not be objective and biased towards you. It\u2019s therefore advisable to seek relationship counseling if both you and your partner are open to the idea. You may feel hesitant about confiding in a stranger, but remember a counselor is not just a stranger but a trained therapist. Just like you go to a doctor to treat an illness, you can visit a relationship counselor to treat your ailing relationship.<\/p>\n

Clinical Hypnosis<\/p>\n

If either of you have a problem with insecurity, jealousy or commitment phobia, the reason could be your past. Clinical hypnosis could help you in this case. Sometimes some past events or happenings may get so firmly embedded in your subconscious that you might end up taking a lot of actions because of those past memories, without even realizing it. Through clinical hypnosis a trained therapist will be able to delve into your subconscious and help you release the memories which are hampering your relationship and re-program your mind. <\/p>\n

Positive affirmations <\/p>\n

When a relationship is in trouble we tend to indulge in lot of negative self-talk about ourselves and our relationship. Not only does such behavior push the relationship further into the abyss of loneliness it also affects our confidence and desire to make the relationship work. Repeated negative self-talk ends up strengthening our belief that our relationship is beyond repair. However, if instead of telling yourself how miserable you are and how imperfect your relationship is, if you could focus on making your relationship work, not only will you feel more motivated to bring your love life back on track but you’ll also feel more confident about being able to do it. You can either make up your own affirmations or practice the following in front of a mirror everyday:<\/p>\n

\u201cI love and appreciate myself the way I am\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI deserve to love and be loved\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI am surrounded by love at all times\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThe universe supplies me with endless love\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cAll is well in my world\u201d<\/p>\n

Visualization techniques<\/p>\n

Have you ever noticed that when you visualize something negative your body and mind start reacting as if you are already facing that situation? For example if you visualize you and your partner\/spouse parting ways, you might feel a lump in your throat and your heart may start sinking. If you continue with your negative visualizations your body and mind start unconsciously pushing you in the direction of what you visualize the most. Similarly if you visualize yourself in a fulfilling relationship with your spouse\/partner, your body and mind will start preparing you to live those happy images and will push you to push to fruition the visions of a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

These tips and techniques will be able to help you build a healthy relationship only if you and your partner are open to the idea of changing for the better, to make your relationship work.<\/p>\n

Want to learn more? Have a comment or situation you’d like to start? Continue your self-help coaching journey at Boomer Yearbook<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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