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Psychological articles<\/strong> dealing with codependency issues point out that a co-dependent\u2019s obsessive behavior towards the dependent family member or friend can be very intrusive. The co-dependent person might care so much that it becomes a psychological obsession and can make the other person feel their boundaries are being violated and even experience the perception of feeling emotionally assaulted. Such a relationship is usually seriously unhealthy to all parties involved.<\/p>\n First, one must be aware of co-dependence symptoms in order to combat the disorder. A co-dependent, while appearing too close to another person is actually avoiding true intimacy. While boasting of personal perfection, the reality is that the co-dependent is really distrustful, hyper-vigilant, and strives to obsessively control another\u2019s behavior at the psychological expense of the other person; even subjecting his dependent person to debilitating physical or emotional abuse in order to maintain the status quo and perpetuate the \u201cunhealthy\u201d mutual dependency. Most extreme cases of co-dependence are accompanied by depression; as the relationship is mutually destructive and frustrating.<\/p>\n Signs of Co-dependency<\/em><\/p>\n The thoughts and feelings of a co-dependence lead to destructive behavior that can cause pain not only to the co-dependent but to others as well, state psychological articles<\/strong> on the issue. These behavioral patterns can harm otherwise healthy relationships and make people anxious, angry and unhappy. Psychological article<\/strong> stress that only we can change our behavior, others simply cannot!<\/p>\n Co-dependents act in emotionally destructive ways in spite of their possible good intentions, exhibiting the following characteristics:<\/p>\n * Co-dependents may consider themselves responsible for other people\u2019s needs, thoughts, feelings, behavior, choices, well-being and destiny. While frequently denying their dysfunctional histories, psychological articles<\/strong> tell us that co-dependents come from troubled families of origin and harbor much resentment. Feelings of malcontent are manifested in the co-dependents typically guarded and defensive behaviors interspersed with episodes of easily becoming angered and lashing out in righteous railings against their subject of dependence and the world in general. Although psychological articles<\/strong> tell us that co-dependents feel they are special and different, they nonetheless appear to adopt a \u201cmartyr-like\u201d stance and will reject compliments. They feel unappreciated and victimized. They are afraid of rejection and making mistakes. They are very pessimistic, and they very much need therapeutic support and psychological help to break the destructive patterns.<\/p>\n Co-dependency can ruin lives. We at Boomer Yearbook urge you to recognize the symptoms and if you find you are suffering from this debilitating disorder, to seek help.<\/p>\n The Psychological Article on Co-Dependency <\/em> is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of suggestions on how to recognize and alleviate elderly problems<\/strong>. We believe knowledge is power. We\u2019d love to hear what you think.<\/p>\n
\n* If their subject is facing some problem the co-dependent will become anxious, feel pity and guilt.
\n* Co-dependents have an uncontrollable urge to help the subject of their co-dependency to resolve any problem; offering unasked for advice or giving numerous quick suggestions.
\n* They are likely to express anger when their help proves ineffective.
\n* They will anticipate other\u2019s needs and will wonder why others don\u2019t do the same for them.
\n* They will do more than what is reasonably expected or required and will even do work which other people can comfortably do for themselves.
\n* They will feel safe when giving to others and unsafe when others give to them.
\n* They will try to please others at the expense of their own pleasure.
\n* They will not know what they need or want and even if they do know, will convince themselves that personal needs are not as important as serving the needs of others.
\n* They will feel \u201cvictimized\u201d, as they are attracted to needy people and feel sad over all they have given to another while others have not given to them.
\n* They will feel very bored and worthless if they do not have a problem to solve or someone needy to help.
\n* They will over-commit themselves, give up their routine to help someone else, and then feel resentful for doing so.<\/p>\n