15 Sep Narcissistic Loss in the Aging Process
Narcissism may be experienced in people of all ages and everyone displays the odd narcissistic trait now and again. True narcissists, however, can cause a great deal of trouble when they hit the baby boomer years and start understanding that their life is on the way out rather than up. The baby boomer generation has its fair share of narcissists.
Narcissists tend to invent a persona to present to the world. They are usually super selfish people and demonstrate an inability to see anyone else’s point of view, especially if it contradicts their own. Like baby boomers, narcissists are famous for getting their way in all things and famously lose their tempers if they cannot get what they want. They will pursue all kinds of complicated and difficult routes to achieve the end result and have an unfortunate tendency to walk over everyone in the process.
When a narcissist ages, all sorts of awful things happen to this fragile ego. Looks start to fade and with the good looks, vanity becomes something almost laughable, making the vain narcissist a figure of ridicule; something that will make any self respecting narcissist wild with rage.
Many narcissists exist to make personal conquests, both mentally and physically. Their entire lives are spent striving to excel and when aging inhibits their performance, they experience a dreadful, gaping loss. Aging Baby boomer parents or grandparents who are narcissists can make entire families hostile and defensive by their inability to accept the infirmities and restrictions of older age.
Baby boomers who are also narcissists are driven by either their intellect or by their physical fitness. Fiercely competitive, narcissists enjoy out-performing everyone and everything. Golf is generally a sport that is not popular with narcissists because there is nobody to blame but themselves if they don’t win. Team games are what the narcissist likes best; games that provide close interaction with others and an opportunity to out-do, outshine and triumph.
The baby boomer narcissist who practices a superior intelligence tends to retain some narcissistic satisfaction for longer but even the mind goes eventually. As baby boomers who suffer with this unfortunate infliction become absent minded and begin to lose their retention on memory, they become fractious and hard to handle.
One of the even more unattractive traits of narcissism is the ability of the narcissist to conceal their true motives and to cunningly contrive situations where other people argue and disagree. The narcissist’s ability to make trouble is legendary and discovery by no means leads them to regret their actions or feel the slightest remorse for hurting everyone. Nobody likes a trouble maker and the narcissist is both practiced and expert at this kind of shabby behavior.
If you have a narcissist in your home, it is unlikely you will be able to prevent their poor behavior but knowing about the condition of narcissism may lead to a better understanding of how to deal with it as advancing age leads to the worst possible stage of the disorder.
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